Dangerous, Hypocritcal, Cowardly

Oh how I wish I could add nicer, Christiany words to the description of Former Congressman Mark Foley. How about “broken” or “humbled” or “lost?” But no. Anyone who manipulates and exploits kids is Dangerous. Anyone who does so after cosigning protection laws is hypocrtical. And, as its being reported this morning, anyone who checks into rehab for alcoholism as a ploy for sympathy (the Captain made me do it!) rather than facing his real demon is a coward.

I’m not sure who to be mad at, be it Foley, the leaders of the Congressional Page program, the other congresspeople who may have known and did nothing, the HRC/Log Cabin/Stonewall groups for not commenting, or e) all of the above.

How is it that a man who touts virtue and morality and child-protection would, as he is advocating Congress to enact laws to protect kids online, goes back to his office and tells a teenage kid to “strip down and get comfortable.”

Over and over and over we see fundamentalism and radical moral arrogance implode on itself. Foley, in a campaign against his own dark corners of his soul, flailed against those who do exactly what he did. He felt guilty, sponsored a law against it, and yet kept right on doing it. And now, it’s possible he could be prosecuted, and should be, under the very law that he pushed for.

It’s as if he wanted to be caught out.

Not that he tried very hard. Everyone knew he was gay and yet he consistently, adamently, even vehemently refused to discuss it. Fear and false, misguided shame kept him from his own truth. With no compass, support system, or relationship framework he fell headfirst into whatever he assumed would satisfy his love-related needs. And as happens with so many people who aren’t taught how to love best, gay or straight, a harmful deviance manifested itself.

Don’t mistake me – while I think this is the result of pressurized and internalized homophobia, I’m not excusing him. There are plenty of closeted gay men and women – many of my dearest, wisest friends – who aren’t twisted in the mind like this. And I’m not saying if Mommy and Daddy hugged him more he would have had a stable sense of proper relationship. I won’t ever make an excuse for someone’s behavior.

Being gay, or straight, has nothing to do with our choices of behavior. Sexuality requires responsibility. We are always responsible for our own actions – and cannot pawn that off on our sexuality, our upbringing, or, as in the breaking news right now, alcoholism.

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10/02/06 10:40 AM
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